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Episode 18: Which Kid Do You Love The Most?


Part 3 of the Things Your Kids Want To Know (But Are Too Afraid To Ask) series.

I’m a bit of a reaction when you hear a parent answer that question with something along the lines of “I love you all the same!” I’m sad to say that I want to slap them and tell them to stop lying.

You cannot possibly love everyone the same because we’re all different people.

I love each of my kids for who they are, and I don’t love one of them more than I love another, but I don’t love them the same.

Maybe it’s just me.

I opened myself up to my kids a few weeks ago and asked each of them what they thought of the way they’d been raised and whether they had any questions of me.

This is the conversation I was dreading: the one with my eldest son.

Which Child Do You Love The Most?

Not because he’s not a great person or I don’t like him, but he’s scarily smart and a natural analyst and debater. He loves arguments (as I well know from his teenage years) and unless someone can convince him of something beyond (not always) reasonable doubt, and argue their point better than he can argue his, he won’t change his mind.

While he did ask (only partly with his tongue stuck firmly in his cheek) which of my kids I preferred, what he wanted to know was what lessons I learned from raising each of the different children.

As always, Jamie made me stop and think…

But what I’d forgotten is that Jamie can also come up with the most insightful, enlightening questions, which is what he did here.

About Karen O’Connor

Blogger, Author, Entrepreneur

Changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife.

As a Podcaster I create a safe space and community for the stuff of Midlife. I provide more than a hub of information I am changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife for women with fun, love and laughter.

After (hopefully, successfully!) raising four kids, being married for 30 years, going from regular month-to-month pay cheque jobs to creating a multi-million dollar property development business (and a number of other businesses with varying degrees of success and failure), to going broke and starting again…

…there’s a heap of experiences and life lessons just waiting to be shared.

Life is about learning from our mistakes and the heartaches we might encounter, but it’s also about having fun and making sure we’re surrounded by laughter…

Which is what you’ll find here in the podcasts & blogs: the highs and lows, successes and failures, sprinkled with fun, love and laughter, because it makes life just so much brighter.

This is all about sharing those things rather than keeping them to ourselves, listening to “ordinary” women’s stories and relating to them, finding common ground and inspiration.

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