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Episode 25: How To Spot A Toxic Coach


Have you ever experienced a toxic coach?

It’s not always easy to spot a toxic coach, whether that’s a life coach or a sports coach, but when you do spot it and you realise the extent of the toxicity, it can be pretty heartbreaking.

The amount of damage that a toxic person can do to others is phenomenal, but when you add in the relationship dynamics of a coach/student, it adds a whole new dimension to the issues that can arise.

Join me and Ryan (my second child) for this discussion.

Listen to the podcast and find out:

  • How to identify a toxic relationship
  • How to identify a toxic coach
  • What a toxic coach (or teacher) does and why it’s so damaging
  • The fine line between urging someone to go beyond their boundaries and egotism
  • The kinds of things toxic coaches say & do
  • The negative impact this kind of coach has on people
  • Why some coaches & teachers turn toxic
  • How to identify and deal with the emotions that come up when your coach turns toxic on you

Toxic Coaches

“Gaslighting is the tactic people use to base the person’s argument by calling them mentally unsound.” – Ryan O’Connor

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About Today’s Guest Ryan O’Connor

Actor, Director, Playwright

Gaslighting is also a form of an abusive relationship.

Ryan J O’Connor is a Geelong-based writer of original, alternative plays and prose.

He’s the co-founder and executive director of Someone New Theatre Company, the winner of the 2019 Grace Marion Wilson Trust Award for Playwriting, and an acclaimed actor and director throughout NSW and Victoria.

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He is also an excellent baker, a trained stage-combatist, a terrible gardener, and a moderately talented poker player.

He does his best writing while trying to avoid his responsibilities, but loves to tell ‘alternative’ stories: romantic comedies about Death, coming-of-age stories about old men, and science-fiction tales about mythological creatures, just to name a few.

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