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Episode 79: The Guilt and Grief of Midlife


By the time I reached my fifties (midlife), I was an absolute Master at feeling guilty and sad about what I’d lost and would never have again.

How we can recognise what’s going on at any moment, how we undervalue ourselves and how to allow ourselves the freedom to do things we enjoy and not do things we think we OUGHT to do.

I don’t know about you, but by the time I reached my fifties, I was an absolute MASTER at feeling guilty and being sad about what I’d lost and would never have again (think: cuddles from a little child, the family all being together, pizza nights in front of the TV, school runs, that kind of thing)

(okay, maybe not the school runs).

It’s such a difficult trap to get out of, but it’s made MUCH easier when you recognise what’s happening; if you don’t know that the reason you’re short-tempered is that you’re sad because your child’s visit is nearly over, then how can you move beyond it?

In this podcast, I go through the things that I’ve done (and hopefully you can do, if you’re inclined) to let go of the guilt and embrace the grief (yes, embracing it makes it disappear so much faster!).

The Guilt and Grief of Midlife

Find out:

  • How to start to recognise the different emotions that are reeling through my brain at any moment, and often at the same time
  • How sharing our real selves – authentically and fully – can change the way we experience life
  • How we undervalue ourselves
    Working out what is it we really want from life
  • Being honest about the things we’re really good at
    Acknowledging our talents and experience (something we, as middle-aged women, tend to be VERY bad at!)
  • (This is a controversial one ) Allowing ourselves the freedom to do things we enjoy and not do things we think we OUGHT to do

I’m looking for people who have an open mindset, a creative, and expansive mindset, who are willing to go out there to try something new.

About Karen O’Connor

Blogger, Author, Entrepreneur

Changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife.

As a Podcaster I create a safe space and community for the stuff of Midlife. I provide more than a hub of information I am changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife for women with fun, love and laughter.

After (hopefully, successfully!) raising four kids, being married for 30 years, going from regular month-to-month pay cheque jobs to creating a multi-million dollar property development business (and a number of other businesses with varying degrees of success and failure), to going broke and starting again…

…there’s a heap of experiences and life lessons just waiting to be shared.

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Life is about learning from our mistakes and the heartaches we might encounter, but it’s also about having fun and making sure we’re surrounded by laughter…

Which is what you’ll find here in the podcasts & blogs: the highs and lows, successes and failures, sprinkled with fun, love and laughter, because it makes life just so much brighter.

This is all about sharing those things rather than keeping them to ourselves, listening to “ordinary” women’s stories and relating to them, finding common ground and inspiration.

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