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The Hidden Price of Settling: Understanding the Impact of an Okay Relationship


Leaving a relationship is an emotionally challenging – and charged – decision, but if there’s nothing particularly wrong, if the relationship is just a bit meh, how do you justify even going to counselling, never mind separating?

This can be one of the biggest problems: if there’s not much wrong, how do you do something about it? If you’re not happy but you’re also not unhappy, how do you have that conversation with your partner?

It’s easy to look at an abusive relationship and say, “You need to leave” but when the relationship is okay, it can be very difficult to explain why it’s not working for you to yourself. And it can be even more difficult explaining how we feel to other people.

Self-awareness can be both a blessing and a curse in this situation because if we are 100% responsible for everything that happens in our lives (this is not about fault or blame, it’s about being responsible for our behaviour and reactions to events) then how do we correct something and tell someone else that the relationship isn’t working for us and we want to change or end it without causing them no end of pain?

Speak up Podcasting - Karen O'Connor

About Karen O’Connor

Blogger, Author, Entrepreneur

Changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife.

As a Podcaster I create a safe space and community for the stuff of Midlife. I provide more than a hub of information I am changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife for women with fun, love and laughter.

After (hopefully, successfully!) raising four kids, being married for 30 years, going from regular month-to-month pay cheque jobs to creating a multi-million dollar property development business (and a number of other businesses with varying degrees of success and failure), to going broke and starting again…

…there’s a heap of experiences and life lessons just waiting to be shared.

Life is about learning from our mistakes and the heartaches we might encounter, but it’s also about having fun and making sure we’re surrounded by laughter…

Which is what you’ll find here in the podcasts & blogs: the highs and lows, successes and failures, sprinkled with fun, love and laughter, because it makes life just so much brighter.

This is all about sharing those things rather than keeping them to ourselves, listening to “ordinary” women’s stories and relating to them, finding common ground and inspiration.