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How “You’re Doing It Wrong!” Affects Us In Midlife With Karen O’Connor


Basically, regardless of where it’s coming from – ourselves or others – invalidation is a form of emotional abuse.

Invalidation can be subtle or overt, but it always has the same effect: to make us feel small and insignificant.

We all have opinions (some of them are definitely Opinions) and we’re all entitled to them. But a lifetime of being told that you’re wrong, either in overt ways such as someone saying “That’s not right!” or in more subtle ways such as dismissing or ignoring something you just said, has a huge impact on us over time.

Invalidation is a when someone denies or rejects our feelings, thoughts, and experiences and most women have been on the receiving end of that their whole lives. Invalidation makes us feel less worthy or valuable and over time, we can find that the ones invalidating us is ourselves.

About Karen O’Connor

Blogger, Author, Entrepreneur

Changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife.

As a Podcaster I create a safe space and community for the stuff of Midlife. I provide more than a hub of information I am changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife for women with fun, love and laughter.

After (hopefully, successfully!) raising four kids, being married for 30 years, going from regular month-to-month pay cheque jobs to creating a multi-million dollar property development business (and a number of other businesses with varying degrees of success and failure), to going broke and starting again…

…there’s a heap of experiences and life lessons just waiting to be shared.

Things that make you go mmm channel

Life is about learning from our mistakes and the heartaches we might encounter, but it’s also about having fun and making sure we’re surrounded by laughter…

Which is what you’ll find here in the podcasts & blogs: the highs and lows, successes and failures, sprinkled with fun, love and laughter, because it makes life just so much brighter.

This is all about sharing those things rather than keeping them to ourselves, listening to “ordinary” women’s stories and relating to them, finding common ground and inspiration.