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Why Being A Female Is A Huge Disadvantage With Karen O’Connor


Overhearing a conversation between two male relatives as a child where they’re discussing the fact that it was a shame that you were born a girl because with your personality and gifts, you should have been born a boy, will have a huge impact on how you view yourself and your gender.

It would probably seem like there are few advantages and many disadvantages to being a female from that perspective, so what do you do?

Answer: you view yourself as a person.

The fastest growing age group for divorce is in the over 55’s and recently I’ve had personal experience in why that’s the case.

After working on building sites and being a person rather than a woman, I had the awful experience (awful in my experience, not necessarily anyone else’s) of being viewed as “just a wife and mother”.

I chose – and was fortunate enough to be able to – stay at home and raise the four kids, but I found that the longer I was in that role, the less respect I received from others and the less confidence I had in myself.

Devoting yourself to others should be a role that gives us the highest respect, yet it isn’t. I’ve had several conversations with experts about the growing divorce rate of couples as they head towards retirement age is caused by the women realising that they’ve had enough of being treated like a second rate person.

Unfortunately, it generally takes their husbands/partners completely by surprise because they’re in the space of, “well, she’s done this for years, why can’t she just carry on being happy with it?”

Listen and watch the episode and then let me know your thoughts and experiences.

Speak up Podcasting - Karen O'Connor

About Karen O’Connor

Blogger, Author, Entrepreneur

Changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife.

As a Podcaster I create a safe space and community for the stuff of Midlife. I provide more than a hub of information I am changing the dialogue around menopause and midlife for women with fun, love and laughter.

After (hopefully, successfully!) raising four kids, being married for 30 years, going from regular month-to-month pay cheque jobs to creating a multi-million dollar property development business (and a number of other businesses with varying degrees of success and failure), to going broke and starting again…

…there’s a heap of experiences and life lessons just waiting to be shared.

Things that make you go mmm channel

Life is about learning from our mistakes and the heartaches we might encounter, but it’s also about having fun and making sure we’re surrounded by laughter…

Which is what you’ll find here in the podcasts & blogs: the highs and lows, successes and failures, sprinkled with fun, love and laughter, because it makes life just so much brighter.

This is all about sharing those things rather than keeping them to ourselves, listening to “ordinary” women’s stories and relating to them, finding common ground and inspiration.